Body safety is an essential part of emotional and physical wellbeing especially for teenagers navigating new relationships, growing independence, and increased social pressure.
Understanding what is appropriate, what feels uncomfortable, and when to speak up is key to staying safe and empowered.
Body safety means knowing that your body belongs to you. No one has the right to touch you in a way that makes you feel uneasy or disrespected, regardless of their age, status, or relationship to you.
Consent is not just about romantic relationships; it also includes personal space, medical boundaries, and physical interactions with peers and adults.
A common tactic used by individuals who violate boundaries is secrecy. Phrases like “Don’t tell anyone” or “This is our little secret” are red flags. Secrecy protects the person who caused harm, not you. It is important to recognise the difference between a secret and a surprise. Surprises are temporary and harmless.
Secrets, especially those about your body or your safety, should never be kept.
Safe touch vs unsafe touch
Safe touch feels okay, respectful, and isn’t secretive. It could be a high-five, a side hug from someone you trust, or a doctor’s check-up (with permission and someone you trust in the room).
Unsafe touch feels uncomfortable, forced, or confusing.
It might even be something that someone tells you not to talk about or makes you feel guilty for not going along with. If you ever feel unsure, listen to that gut feeling. It’s there for a reason.
You’re not overreacting. You’re protecting yourself.
I encourage all teens to trust their instincts. If something feels off, it likely is.
Talk to a trusted adult, school counsellor, or teacher. Speaking up takes courage, but it protects your mental health and helps prevent future harm.
You have the right to feel safe, respected, and heard. Your voice matters.
Melissa David’s is a registered counsellor, based in East London.
