Balance must be found between fun and bad behaviour

In the pursuits of mankind, the variety of experiences, events, defining moments and human interactions know no bounds.

While there will be many aspects of each person’s journey that are unique, there will also be those shared and significant experiences that join members of our race in powerful and enduring bonds.

One such event is “The Tour”.

Many have heard the notorious (to some) expression and almost “honour-among-thieves” creed of sports teams, often rugby, and particularly male, touring groups:

“What goes on tour, stays on tour.”

This “unwritten agreement” and binding force determines that nothing of the shenanigans of the tour will be shared with anybody outside of that group.

Some would argue that this is a reflection of the innate nature of man and should be respected for that. Others would contend that this “tour creed” is just an excuse for irresponsible behaviour and dubious activities without the risk of exposure to friends, family and colleagues outside of the group.

Whichever view gains sway amongst those who deliberate about the practice, there is no denying that “The Tour” is one of the most significant and enjoyable of man’s group activities.

Not many experiences can surpass the camaraderie of a physically demanding team sport and the brotherhood that flows from shared high spirited activities. That these sometimes push the boundaries seems par for the course, and that their nature isn’t conducive to general public exposure is often a determining reality.

Of course there are many other types of tours that take place, and couples or family and group trips could also have elements of “what goes on tour…” as a part of their dynamics.

Not many would want to broadcast embarrassing or unpleasant events or issues to others not present at the time.

But a very real threat to the preservation of confidentiality in recent years is the ubiquitous and privacy-threatening cellphone with its invasive recording and social media operations.

“What goes on tour stays on tour” is a convention under much pressure from the technology of today.

Is absolute transparency ever a realistic option and practice in the affairs of mankind? Is there a case to be made for selective disclosure when the interests of brotherhood and shared experiences are under threat of potentially damaging scrutiny?

Conventional wisdom suggests that there should be a balance.

The undeniable value of tours should never be sacrificed, and privacy and confidentiality should be respected and celebrated. But this should not be to the detriment of decency or against rules and laws which promote safety of people and property.

Conspiratorial practices should not threaten integrity and good sense in the implementation of the “men will be men” and “what goes on tour” philosophies.


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